The Uncomfortable Parts of Our Healing Journey

When we talk about “The Healing Journey” in this climate it is often romanticized. It isn’t traveling or letting your skin glow in the sun. It is not blue sky’s and rainbows Or peaceful. It is UNCOMFORTABLE. It is breaking before becoming. The truth is, real healing asks us to sit with discomfort. To feel. To face. To let go.

We don’t talk enough about the parts that hurt—the parts that stretch us, strip us down, and require a kind of courage we didn’t even know we had. So let’s talk about them.

1. Confronting Past Trauma

Healing starts with honesty. We must face what we’ve buried in order to release it. Avoiding it only prolongs the pain.

2. Parent Wounds

Realizing that your parents couldn’t meet your emotional needs is heartbreaking—but acknowledging it is the first step toward breaking cycles.

3. Realizing Our Inner Child Was Neglected

It’s painful to notice how long you’ve silenced or dismissed the younger you who still craves safety and love.

4. Parenting Your Inner Child

Reparenting means showing up for yourself with love, patience, and presence. It’s hard work—but it’s sacred.

5. Developing Self-Awareness

Seeing your own patterns can be uncomfortable—but it’s the beginning of conscious change.

6. Setting Boundaries

Boundaries are hard—especially if you’ve been taught to please. But they’re acts of self-respect, not selfishness.

7. Respecting Other People’s Boundaries

Healing teaches us to release control and honor others’ limits too—even when it feels personal.

8. Forgiving Those Who Hurt You

Forgiveness isn’t approval—it’s freedom. You deserve peace more than you deserve closure.

9. Forgiving Yourself

Let go of the shame. You did the best you could with what you knew.

10. Grieving the Old You

As you heal, parts of you will fall away. Mourn the old you. Bless the old you, and let them go.

Over the next few weeks we we’ll go over each of these points and give a broader understanding on each one of them. I will show you on how facing the uncomfortable truth will help you heal.

Healing isn’t always light. But even in the dark, you are growing. Keep going. You are doing the work that changes everything.

Sources:

• van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

• Luskin, F. (2002). Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness.

• Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents.